Thursday, August 21, 2014

Thursday Thoughts----Joy and Balance



Thursdays are like the feeling of Christmas Eve. You know that Friday is the next day and if you work Monday through Friday you know what I mean by saying it's a joy! ( unless you do not like to go home, which can sometimes be the case and then Monday is the feeling of joy)

How do we keep that same joy that Fridays bring every day? Well, sometimes, it's a challenge, even for those that say they are happy all the time and joyous. We are all human and there are seasons in our life that it is more difficult to express or even find joy, sadly but true.

Joy : a feeling of great pleasure or happiness

Webster puts one word differently in there.  A SOURCE of great happiness.

I think that one word makes a big difference in how our days go whether it be Sunday through Saturdays as we are almost all busy in one way or another in the doing of our lives. Because our lives are pretty much scattered in different areas of service or need, we have to make sure that we seek out the source of great happiness which may be entirely different from me to you or anyone else.

I can think of many sources of great happiness for myself:

stitching

knitting

comfort food

junkin' for a good buy

time spent with my husband

time spent alone

reading

writing

going to church and time with God

helping others when they can't help themselves

meditating and yoga

listening to music

spending time with loved ones and friends

These are just a few. Each one brings me happiness or is a source of happiness because I connect good memories with it and feel like I'm recharging my busy body and mind.



I literally sing this on somedays in the car to remind myself of the difference. Getting what we need is pretty basic and simple really (most of the time). Getting what we want is an extra and sometimes what we want IS something we need. 

It's during these times that I find that I have to choose one of the SOURCES of happiness to get myself back in the groove of this life journey. I don't know if that works for you but I hope it's some food for thought today. I also have to remind myself that balance in life is the goal. When the balance in our life is not "balanced", it really is reflected in our happiness or joy. Most of the time that's because we do not have time to find a source of joy to balance it all out. I know that has happened to me. I have to choose to say......Wait, wait just a minute.....I must, must try to find some balance here. If I don't, then I know I will be burned out and my choosing a source of joy is limited.

For women in specific, I have in practice as an NP found that (and I am guilty of this myself at times) there is a true lack of balance and not seeking out a source of joy because of being the primary caretakers of the home and just giving and giving and giving of themselves to the point of a major burnout.

This is the conversation:

me:  so what do you do for hobbies or for yourself?

them:   I don't have time for a hobby and I never have time for myself. {{{laughing}}}........that's a joke. I have too much to do.

me:  How is that working for you?

them:   Well, I just need a pill for this feeling of  unhappiness. My husband said I need to get fixed. My family can't stand me.

me:    So, do you think your family/husband could at least once a week watch the kids while you choose something you used to do for happiness?

Then they think real hard and most but not all , unfortunately, say "yes, they probably would, but...but...but...


and then it's but.   

Then we explore things that could be hobbies or ways to find some me-time. You would be surprised at how many people cannot even remember what they liked to do to chill out, so to speak. And sometimes journaling or going for a walk twice a week or music or anything that used to be a source of joy needs to be revisited.

I in no way am suggesting everyone has to choose to slice a bit of time out of their life for themselves and their source to remain balanced if you simply cannot but even if we find the most rewarding part of our life tending to our family 24-7, it's unbalanced and will eventually lead to burnout. I also am not suggesting that medication is not necessary because in some cases it certainly is a helper to many situations and cases; however, for the purpose of this posting, I am trying to express that even with medication, finding joy sources to put into our lives, helps so very much.

And as the sayin' goes.......when mama ain't happy, nobody's happy. : )

So, I hope this gives you thought for Thursday today in some way in order to maybe try to find your own sources of happiness so that you are filled with joy.

Makes a world of difference when we can't always get what we want..............yup I'm singing it.

I'm so thankful that I have stitching and knitting as a couple of those sources. I'm also thankful that while it fills my heart with joy, I can pass that joy to others in all areas of my life in my work or at home.

Romans 15:13

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

5 comments:

  1. Dearest Jennifer,
    Happiness is above all being content with what you already got! Back to Basics is what's all about... Not giving in to all the pushing for spending without reason.
    Enjoy your upcoming weekend!
    Hugs,
    Mariette

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  2. so true! Many of the things I find bring me happiness are really free!

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  3. I so look forward to your posts- they always seem to touch upon things happening in my life. You give me such hope that I will be happy again.
    The past 2 years of my life have been filled with crappy things- like REALLY crappy, so much so that I started to question my faith, but some events from just last week have left me shaken. God answered my prayer so completely and so specifically, that I find my self crying tears of joy, not so much because He answered my prayer, but because I now know He is listening to me and is there for me, that I am not alone.
    Your Biblical quote sums up my current situation so succinctly, I just had to comment.
    Thank you Jennifer, for being such an inspiration to my faith and showing me how to believe.

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  4. So true..such a sweet post..
    Thank you dear friend xx

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  5. What a lovely, sweet post and also lovely comments!

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